Relationships Are Hard, But Why?

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How to Give Your Relationship a Fighting Chance

We all know relationships are hard. But what if it’s not you, or them, or sex, or money, or even who picks up the socks? What if there is a far more primitive reason? In this talk, relationship expert, teacher and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience – and explains how to give your relationship a fighting chance.


Relationships in Spotlight -What to Consider Now – Selacia

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Relationships in Spotlight
-What to Consider Now-
by Selacia
Now that we have stepped fully into 2018, it’s timely to evaluate relationships and their key role in what happens next. The relationship piece of planetary awakening has always been the most essential one, but this year it becomes even more vital. This is on both a collective societal level and a very personal level. Continue reading for highlights of why this is important and what’s helpful for you to consider now as you navigate your own relationships.
As I wrote about recently, we as a collective are still processing the chaotic and crazy times of 2017. Some lighter energies as 2018 begins can help with the healing, potentially catalyzing an increasing awareness of the big picture.
Indeed much of the drama that unfolded on the world stage last year can be traced to relationships and distrust of the “other.”  It is people, not countries, that create division and start wars. I referenced these things in my “2017 Predictions,” an annual guide for understanding and navigating each year as we move through it.
Your Relationships in 2018
On a more personal level, of course, you know how important relationships are to your well-being, happiness, and spiritual progression. That’s a given in any year. This year, however, the state of your key relationships is vital to moving forward and creating the life you want.
You with you: The most important relationship to have in balance is the one you have with yourself. The state of your other relationships will mirror your own levels of self-love, self-acceptance, and self-awareness.
You with others: All of your relationships have something to teach you. Be open to learning this year. Be willing to listen deeply to what your loved ones are saying, and also notice what they withhold. Being open to this deeper level of communication will help you to discover where adjustments can be made. It will help you to create more authentic relationships that are both nurturing and supportive of soul growth.
You as divine changemaker: In your role as a divine changemaker, you are at the helm of the pivotal changes occurring on Earth now. You are alive now to set the example of what it means to be loving and kind. You are here to help others step into their own light and empowerment. Therefore, how you relate to others sets an example and catalyzes beneficial changes. Some of the changes you spark in others can be so profound that their life destiny is upgraded to a brand-new level. Whenever this happens, you grow spiritually and you create beneficial seeds for your future.
You and new people: Keep in mind as you meet new people this year that you are purposefully on a fast-track with your growth. You will experience many big changes in these pivotal years. Sometimes so much happens on an inner level that it’s like you are not the same person you were last year or five years ago. It could even feel like a brand-new incarnation, but in the same body. I mention this here for context, and as a reminder for those times when you are with someone new and find yourself hesitating to describe things like your interests or your purpose.
You and familiar people: Given the energies of 2018, don’t be surprised if you connect with more people from your past. When I say “past,” I’m not necessarily referring to years ago; it could be lifetimes ago. In either case, you could feel a certain comfort or familiarity when you connect. Current life example could be an old friend you thought you had outgrown, and then he or she shows up and describes being interested in similar things you now enjoy. Past life example could be a new person who seems familiar only because of a past life, when you had a bond of love.
Love Bonds Across Time
You’ve heard the expression that love does not die. Indeed, there is something to that, especially when you consider the journey of your soul and some of your key love interests. There’s a false notion that love is random. In fact, romantic love is anything but random. There are two souls involved, and oftentimes past love bonds magnetize the people together again this life.
In my DNA healing work, I’ve seen this dynamic repeatedly. Sometimes the people will tell me that  they “knew” on first meeting they had been together before. Other times, they don’t suspect this is the case – or perhaps simply haven’t explored it – then as we work together on relationship issues the past life bonds surface. Connecting these dots is not mere entertainment, by the way; it provides essential insights for improving the relationship and sustaining a strong love bond.
How You Show Up is Key
How you show up in relationships – with self and others – will be vital to your success this year.
Harmony you create with self and others becomes an elixir in your energy field, assisting you with self-growth and with holding the higher vibration needed to manifest successful outcomes in the world.
Disharmony you create with self and others can drain your life force, distract you from what’s important, and become a toxic energy that spills over into other relationships and activities.
Knowing this, strive to be mindful of the relationship dance you do with self and others. When you are present to conversations and energies – remembering that they matter in the big picture – it becomes easier to say and do the highest things.

Copyright 2018 by Selacia

– a globally known writer, DNA intuitive healer, spiritual teacher, and the creator of The Divine Changemakers * All Rights Reserved * * Feel free to share these articles with your friends and post to your blog or website as long as you include this entire copyright notice, with link back to website, and the full article text.

Mastering Relationships Practice – Lisa Renee

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These times are very explosive with sudden changes that force rapid transformation unexpectedly, and this can be very painful for many people that are undergoing tremendous amounts of pressure and stress in their lives. Very few people on the earth have the proper context to apply the knowledge of planetary ascension and understand how this massive event is directly impacting their lives thereby dismantling ego and obsolete structures. Thus, when we are feeling more stressed we may react too quickly and say things coming from impulses that we may regret later. Therefore, let us remember to take extra care to be kind and to proceed slowly with conscious thought and reflection within our interactions with others, and attempt to hold all of our communications with special care, to intend to be clear, kind and compassionate even in the most stressful and confusing of situations. May we find the inner stillness and peace that enables us to feel unconditional love in order to support each of us to reconnect with the deepest part of our own inner light and heart, in so that we begin to  live as free, authentic and creative source beings once again. For I Am God. I Am Sovereign and I Am Free!

This is true for every person at all times and this law is upheld for all without exception. All people deserve to know the inner truth of their own heart and soul, and to be able to live on the earth free of fear and free of suffering. During these intense times of shifting, let’s try to not create any more pain or dramas within the community or between ourselves. This is what it means to be gentle with our hearts and to be gentle with each other. In light of these challenging circumstances, we all can benefit from improving our compassionate communication skills, improving our relating skills personally, and interpersonally. As we shift from individuated personality consciousness to merge towards unity in diversity within a group consciousness setting, we will find many communication challenges in the group dynamics that we may find ourselves. Whether its family groups, professional groups, social groups, spiritual groups, community groups, online groups, we will need to find better ways to master communications within any of these relationships. As a result of the need to find ways to open mutual dialogues within diverse and polarizing view points, this is a skill set that will go a long way to serve not only our personal mission, but support every aspect of our lives. We all can benefit from improving our communication skills, to commit to be relationally safe people, kind people, and compassionate people that refuse to direct more of the negative energy that is being transmitted and stirred up by the Controllers and the NAA at this time to feed division and invoke fear.

With that in mind we set forth a few guidelines to remember when communicating with others or relating with others, in our community or in any area of your life. Choosing Service to Others based communication guidelines through the desire to gain mastery in all relationships will create much greater ease in all of the interpersonal relationships that you have. So let’s review some of these basic guidelines of mastering relationships and working with these guidelines every day, so that we can improve our self mastery and improve our compassionate communication skills.

#1: Self-Responsibility. Being able to own your own emotional conflicts without blame or projection upon another person by making it their fault. Do not assume that you know anything about that person that can be judged for what you cannot see or really know about them, as you have not walked in their shoes. When feeling upset towards somebody else, restore balance to your heart and aura by lovingly holding boundaries without violating others boundaries, by expecting them to resolve your conflict. Be willing and open to learn what the real issue is that has created the conflict. As most of the time, we’re upset about something deep down from our own inner fears and it’s not what it appears to be. By going deeper and reflecting on forgiveness of ourselves and forgiveness of others, while allowing the time and space needed to heal, helps to neutralize the conflict in most cases.

#2: Conservation. Being able to discern the right use of action harnesses precious time and life force so that we can all be more effective and impactful in our lives. Cultivate the wisdom of knowing when to engage and when not to engage with others in conflicting circumstances or dramas. No person needs to justify their existence or choices to another person or really needs to care what other people think of them. Attempt to stay clear of emotional drama or emotional tantrums by not engaging with them. It means that you do not feed the drama to escalate into chaos or further disruption. Dark energies and dark forces use emotional drama to instigate schisms and chaos between yourself and others. Making all of us especially in this spiritual family less effective by scattering our energies and generating more confusion. When we learn to conserve our energy, it means we have a stronger focus and one becomes more effective and productive in their lives. When we learn conservation skills, we actually gain more resources and a deeper connection with our spiritual source. If we waste time and we waste energy, we reach an energy threshold that cannot be increased or circulated. This potentially drains us and therefore dissipates the positive influence and positive frequencies we intended to circulate back into the environment. When we are scattered with our personal energies, this makes us less effective and impactful in the world.

#3: Learning how to Respond. In the moment, learn how to choose your response rather than react to life events, people and challenging circumstances. Reaction and impulses are subconscious programming and it mostly operates from a preconceived idea of fear or mind control. Observe the reactions inside of your body, in regard to yourself and others, and ask your body to show you the story of where the impulses are coming from. The memory that is behind the subconscious program of that reaction. As one learns to enquire about the reactions that you automatically generate, much is learned about our body consciousness and this can effectively be healed and cleared from continuing the reaction or trigger. Emotional catharsis techniques and much of the ES Core Triad practices include several steps to help release the story, clearing the memory from the body so it can return to a new pattern which is free of automatic and reactive pain. Choosing forgiveness, choosing kindness, choosing compassion and working on choosing self-love and self-acceptance is all a decision one has the power to make in every moment. By choosing your responses, you are gaining control over your self.

#4: Reverence. All beings have the right to exist and to co-exist. By learning there are mutual benefits present between all relationships and by respecting each person’s right to exist is a demonstration of reverence for life. Reverence for life force and for God force in all of its aspects and in all of its permutations. We choose to avoid behaviors of criticism or presumption, or being disrespectful with harmful accusations in order to gain control or to manipulate others, such as by giving unsolicited advice or placing demands. Learn to live and let live.

#5: Humility. By knowing our place in the universe and the role we play, one acts in humility, knowing that all is a part of the God source. All is equal in the love of God and no being, no person is judged as better or worse, higher or valued more than any other. By acting from humility and from devoting yourself to spiritual service when you are called upon to do something, this is an action of stewardship in humility that you accept the job given. There is no self-entitlement given in spiritual service. Entitlement is a distortion of spiritual ambition and negative ego that feels superior to others. And if self-entitlement is left unchecked in leadership, it will result in a correction or what is known as a root downfall.

#6: Discernment. Without using ego judgment test the personal resonance of people, events and circumstances that you choose to engage with or exchange with, determining which is either aligned to your person or not aligned to your person, in that moment. There is no right or wrong answer, only personal resonance and choice. That answer may change continually in different timelines depending on when you ask the question and what powers of discernment are cultivated. Learning personal discernment builds our necessary boundaries to discover what is productive and supportive for fulfilling our spiritual path or not. Discernment allows for continual productive growth and for the effective use of our personal energies and focused attention. By upholding our personal boundaries and applying discernment towards all things that we focus our energy and our attention upon, we are more effectively managing our consciousness and life force.

#7 Direct Knowing. By feeling in the moment what the energy is communicating, or what the environment is communicating to you, suspend linear thought and surrender mental chatter to feeling of what you know in that present moment of time. This is direct knowing, breathing in the moment, feeling the energy signature in the environment will open our higher senses to allow the energy to give our body impressions and information without words. When being present, higher knowing becomes connected with you at all times. What you know now in this moment is all you will ever need to move forward. Breathe and take in what is in front of you now as direct knowing. Every moment in the feeling of the direct knowing will be available to you in the present. Generally, we know much more in the feeling of the moment, than we mentally acknowledge ourselves for. Pay attention to what is in front of you. What does now feel like. Let the energy and the feeling response give information and insight to your heart and intuitive feelings.

#8 Surrender. By being present in the moment, and surrendering to the now, judgments and future expectations of others are completely dissolved. Every connection or personal contact holds an opportunity for growth and learning. Attempt to neutralize polarity thinking and division by asking for the deeper meaning, the needed change or lesson of growth that is inherent in a circumstance, especially one that appears or feels painful to you. Surrendering to the now moment and feeling the feelings, while holding unconditional love allows greater acceptance to neutralize painful or confusing situations. If we constrict in a defensive posture or hold on to defend the situation, it amplifies the negativity of that situation and makes that situation vulnerable to interference and superimposed wills. Learn to let go, and let God.

#9 Be True to You. Honor your entire being and honor your life force, inquire and put forth the effort to know the contents of your heart and higher purpose for spiritual growth And only really give to others what feels joyful and aligned for your person. Do you not bargain yourself away or sacrifice your truth however, do not avoid tasks that build discipline of the personal character. Ask your multi-dimensional selves what they need to feel balanced and peaceful as you pay attention to your energetic and physical well-being. Generating love and kindness to ourselves as a loving but firm self-parent is a part of spiritual maturity. It is important to give generously to the inner child with acknowledgement and loving appreciation of witnessing the inner childs experiences.

The Relationship Mastery Guidelines are nine steps of practicing improved communication skills with a positive Service to Others orientation. It allows you to create a mutually energetic benefit from experiencing more spiritual connection, increased love and appreciation, and returning back more positive interactions from others to you. Our practice comes without attachment and without expectation placed upon others. This happens naturally when we follow some basic guidelines in certain areas where we have asked for spiritual growth beyond anything else to master old patterns that we are attempting to transcend during the ascension cycle. We may have periods of growth where we are undergoing a deep testing to our personal truth and personal beliefs, watching our 3D world crumble. We are undergoing a time where we will endure a life review, which is definitely testing our personal truth and personal beliefs against the authentic nature of our spiritual being. Eventually our goal is to be able to be in this world, yet not of it. And be able to generate more fulfilling, loving and appreciative bonds that are shared with other people, whether in groups, our community or within our own personal intimate relationships.

(Transcript- Ascension Q&A Life Review, June 2012)

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Tap Into Beneficial Energies – 11/18 New Moon Meditation

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Selacia Article & Invite to 11/18 Meditation, Divine Changemakers


Tap Into Beneficial Energies
-Tips for Forward Movement –
by SelaciaThe world may seem to be falling apart in these moments. Your personal world doesn’t need to mirror this, however, and in fact this is an excellent time to create more momentum and inner peace. Continue reading for tips on how to do this, as well as background on current energies supportive of forward movement.

Energy Factors 
Optimism and courage may be easier to access now with the Sun-Jupiter conjunction. Use this beneficial line-up to take constructive steps you have been putting off, and to experiment with new things. Use it to move past your fears, too, including that little fearful voice in your head that stops you from directly addressing issues in a key relationship.
Spotlight on Relationships
Relationships of all kinds are getting a big spotlight this year. During certain energy cycles, you will notice this more, but it’s really in the background all the time. Very old DNA-level ancestral patterns involving relationships are now being brought to the surface to heal and transform. That’s impacting everyone. Since that includes you and all those you have relationships with, use these times to put a spotlight on yourself and key relationships.
Relationships up for review could include a romantic partner, a friend, family member, or business colleague. When one of these relationships gets off track, it loses its aliveness. The stale energy impacts not only you and the other person but your interactions with other people. Stale or dysfunctional energy can be ignored, but it sits there in the energy field nonetheless.
Impact of Transforming a Key Relationship
As you begin to transform even one key relationship, your energy field changes. You then broadcast a higher frequency. This impacts many kinds of interactions you have, including with new people you meet. Different and more positive outcomes are then possible, your having elevated your energy and it being received differently. Your changed energy can bring you more abundance and more opportunities to shine your light in the world.
How to Get Started
I suggest using our current energies to explore a key relationship. A good place to start is by becoming still and going within. Set your intention to uncover deeper levels of issues involving relationships. Accept the fact that there is something new to discover – beyond what you already know. Consider that you could have overlooked a key piece of information – or perhaps that you never asked something that needed to be asked. Know that it’s very likely your relationship stalemate can be traced to DNA-level ancestral patterns hidden out of view in your subconscious. Be open to the idea that even a longstanding issue you previously weren’t able to directly address could be addressed now. Trust that.
If it seems scary to investigate a relationship you sense lacks aliveness, consider the alternatives. Yes, you could pretend everything is fine or simply not worth the trouble to rock the boat. You could mentally shelve the issue with your mind, convincing yourself that you aren’t that bothered by the dysfunction. Yes, you could lie to yourself, but your divine changemaker self knows this is not authentic.  That wise part of you knows that you thrive and fulfill your purpose as you dare to be authentic.
For right now, that means diving deeper within yourself and what’s going on in your life. Relationships are an integral part of that.
Diving deeply beneath the surface of life events can be challenging, yet so rewarding as you discover things you couldn’t see before. Since current energies support this deep dive, why not jump in and see what you find?

Copyright 2017 by Selacia

– a globally known writer, DNA intuitive healer, spiritual teacher, and the creator of The Divine Changemakers * All Rights Reserved * * Feel free to share these articles with your friends and post to your blog or website as long as you include this entire copyright notice, with link back to website, and the full article text.

Source: Tap Into Beneficial Energies – 11/18 New Moon Meditation

Kalayna Colibri – Collapsing and Awakening into Deeper Spiritual Consciousness

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Love Secrets in Your DNA Akashic Records > Selacia

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Love Secrets in Your DNA Akashic Records

The power of love to bring people together and create a lasting bond is without question one of the most amazing magnetic forces at work in relationships. Have you ever wondered how you could have been attracted to someone or stayed with someone when he or she didn’t fit your idea of the perfect match? Likewise, have you wondered why you are still single or why the person supposedly perfect for you left with no explanation? Continue reading to understand some of the “why” of such things, learning how specific answers can be found in your DNA akashic records.

Why Love Often Doesn’t Make Sense

For starters, know that love quite often doesn’t make sense when your reference point is the conventional world and society norms. Love can seem illogical and unmanageable from that reference point. Love can’t be negotiated, after all. It can’t be put in a box or manipulated.

Love is a living energy that one can only fully appreciate from a holistic big-picture point of view. This larger view includes subtle forces that bring two people together. These forces are quantum, vast, and interconnected on a soul level.

Personal Love-Life History in DNA

Did you know that your entire personal love-life history is actually recorded in your DNA akashic records? Yes, it’s there in the field around your DNA, which can be read like a map by a trained DNA intuitive healer.

When you have a specific relationship issue, or simply a block to finding love, there is usually a very good reason. Investigating this in the DNA akashic records, the cause could have started with an early life experience, or it could go way beyond that.

Most often, there’s a combination of factors at play. It could be an early life wound supplemented by ancestral patterns you house within your DNA. You may never have met the ancestors involved, but their experiences with love could impact you all the same. Likewise, your current issue could be rooted in your past lives – an experience that soured you, a vow you took, or a betrayal that destroyed your trust.

Sometimes your current issue involves the same person you were with before in another lifetime. There are countless other scenarios, too.

Secrets to Love Happiness

Difficulties with love rarely begin this life. Most come from the soul’s numerous experiences in relationship with others. A person who was your father one lifetime could be your husband the next. Roles will sometimes change for the soul to have different experiences, each time learning more about how to love.

Sometimes people make a soul agreement to come together again at a specific time. Not all of these involve romantic partnership. It could be more of a friendship or business partnership. Either way, when the two meet again, there is a strong bond and perhaps instant recognition on an intuitive telepathic level.

When people are connected on these more subtle levels, it can feel mysterious. One or both people often feel that there’s some larger bond at work in the background.

Quite often when people contact me for private sessions, there’s some kind of relationship bond involved. It’s normal to want to understand the connection and the soul-level roots of the relationship.

Demystifying these things can go a long way towards a happier relationship. Example: before getting married or going into business together, one or both partners often want a kind of advance check-in about potential harmony and problems. A lot can be seen about such things in the DNA akashic records. Foresight can make all the difference in creating a happy and lasting partnership.

2017 Relationship Challenges

Relationships of all kinds are having unique challenges during 2017. These are stressful and uncertain times. Tensions are amplified beyond the norm, and even relatively stable relationships can get shaky.

Planetary energies are contributing to the chaos people feel within as they attempt to adapt to the constantly-changing canvas of events. All kinds of very old issues can rise to the surface within people. This can make for quite volatile relationships.

Remember, though, that you and everyone you meet has love at their core. That love is your true nature. It is the energy that fuels you to go on when you get discouraged and nothing makes sense. It is the healing force that brings you back together with your loved one after a misunderstanding.

Walk gently with yourself and others. Allow for mistakes. Allow for the larger picture of interpersonal interactions and relationship bonds. Invite a knowing of hidden puzzle pieces that help explain issues as they arise.

Keep in mind that forces and life events outside your awareness – including from ancestors or past lives – could be impacting your present. Investigate those for DNA healing of root issues preventing harmony.

Each day as you walk your path as a divine changemaker, remember that you are here now on purpose. At a soul level, you chose to be alive now at this pivotal juncture of humanity. You are not a victim. You are at cause, alive to master living in a conscious heart-centered way.

You are here to remember the love that you are and how to express it in all types of situations. When that love is your fuel, your reason for doing and being, you cannot make a mistake or lose your way.

Source: Love Secrets in Your DNA Akashic Records > Selacia

BRUCE LIPTON – The Honeymoon Effect – The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth – 6-18-17 – Higher Density Blog

Source: BRUCE LIPTON – The Honeymoon Effect – The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth – 6-18-17 – Higher Density Blog

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